Dear subscriber,
For a brief (very brief) period of my life, I was a professional drummer.
I was not a naturally talented drummer. I had to work harder than an ugly stripper to get to the level I achieved.
And even that level was not enough to cut it in the unforgivable and fickle playground that is the music industry. Ultimately, I got chewed up, spat out, kicked to the curb, and washed down the drain.
I refused to believe it at the time, but I was not supposed to have a drumming career any more than Conor McGregor was supposed to have an acting career.
Too bad too sad for me, huh?
Oh well… at least I can say I gave it a good shot.
By the way, natural talent is a very underrated element when it comes to finding one’s purpose in life.
You should be doing something that comes naturally to you. It shouldn’t feel like you’re always chasing your tail. For example, if you flunked math at school and still use your fingers and toes to count, then deciding to be an accountant may not be the smartest thing.
The reason I became a writer, is because writing for me comes easy.
So, Kelvin, are you saying you’re a natural? Yes. Exactly. That’s what talent is. It means you can do stuff effortlessly while most others struggle.
When I was a drummer, I always felt like a one-legged duck in a croc-infested creek. I watched other drummers who made it look effortless. Do you know why they were able to make it look so damn easy? Because it was easier for them.
Talent should not be ignored.
Huh?
How is any of this gonna help you? you ask with a tinge of annoyance.
Here’s how:
Listen, the gigs that I actually did land, were not always based on my drumming ability. Nope. Many times, I was picked over other drummers because I was more likeable. True. What I lacked in drumming ability, I made up for with my personality.
That’s right, my friend, I charmed my way through a lot of auditions.
You see, band leaders and music directors are wise to the game. They know they’ll be clocking serious hours with you, both on and off stage. So, they’re looking for someone who’s a cool hang! You could be a great drummer, but if you’re a bummer to hang out with, you’ll lose out to the drummer who may not be technically as good but is more likeable.
Understand this:
Charm is the WD-40 on the Gears
of Our Relationships!
Now, I know what some of the more intelligent among you are saying, “Kelvin, you can’t teach someone to be charming or more charismatic, you either have it or you don’t.”
Well, I used to think that, too.
But it ain’t so.
You can become more charismatic and charming.
I talk about this in the May issue. The reason should be obvious. The more charming and charismatic you are, the more life opens up its treasures and showers them upon you. The more people want to be with you, help you, and do business with you.
Listen, Freckles, I can give you all the sales tricks and tactics, but if you’re a charmless twat, what good are they?
Ya dig?
Hey, I told you that the May issue was a mixed bag. Lot of different topics.
But each is an important topic for moving the needle in your business and personal life.
This issue drops very soon. If you want in on the action, please carefully read this: https://kelvindorsey.com/mavericks-inner-circle/
Your friend,
Kelvin
Email Marketing Maverick
